To the most amazing creatures on the planet, I wish you all a very Happy  International Women’s Day!

To all the family members, friends, teachers, mentors, motivators, business partners, strangers and angels who have walked beside me and blessed me with their presence, I thank you.

I honour you.  I celebrate you.

Happy Women’s Day!

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So Proud to be Canadian!

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Mes chers Canadiens,  My dear Canadians,

Merci Beaucoup!  Thank you very much!

Merci d’avoir voté aujourd’hui. 
Thank you for voting today.
I honestly don’t care for the candidate for whom you voted
or the candidate you supported –
I care that you went out and voted in a historic election!
Thank you for being part of this incredible democratic process!
Thank you for making change possible.
I thank you on behalf of those in this world who cannot vote;
for fear of retribution, fear of persecution, death and exile.
For those who literally can never go home again, I thank you!
Je suis très heureux en ce moment;
not because of who won, but because more people voted. 
More people knew this election was and is important.
To Mr. Trudeau, félicitations! et congratulations and God Bless.
May you live up to the hope and the hype!
Merci Canada!  Thank you Canada!
I truly wanted to wait until I had heard all the facts established in a fair trial, in a court of law, until speaking my piece. However, I simply cannot stay silent because staying silent is no longer a choice.

 

It speaks volumes about a nation when women are afraid to come forward for fear of retribution.

It speaks volumes when people in positions of authority behave inappropriately. They know no one will come forward because they are “protected” by that silent wall of closed-eye/closed-mind complicity– the statement “s/he will never change.”

If never called to account, how could that person possibly change?  Repeating the same behaviour will always yield the same results.  Whether observer or aggressor.

It speaks volumes that such behaviour is tolerated because we don’t want to face the consequences of passive – aggressive – retaliation – bullying manifested in homes and workplaces all over this nation.

It speaks volumes when women have that heart-wrenching debate about whether or not to come forward because they know irrespective of what happened, they will be questioned as to demeanour and appearance. Moreover, to be hunted and “trolled” online for reporting abusive behaviour is atrocious and cowardly at its very core; the trolls and commentators hide behind yet another silent wall– one that George Strombolopolous aptly called “a silent wall of aggression.”

I am sickened by trolls and social media pariahs who think they have the right to attack just because they are fans.  A celebrity does not necessarily a moral person make.  To call someone a hero because he/she has won a few awards and is invited to all the best parties and restaurants is insulting to the real heroes/heroines who everyday risk their lives.

It sickens me that society has reached such a point of dissolution of absolute intellect, that we prosecute in the court of public opinion, the victims and accusers and make celebrities out of the accused. (Case in point: OJ Simpson)

It sickens me that trolls are getting away with social bullying and harassment because Canadian law can’t seem to keep up with social media.

I am sickened by the number of women, married to members of law enforcement, surviving through the worst abuse imaginable, who feel the only freedom they will have is when their partners actually kill them.  And many do.

It speaks volumes that sexually confident women are shamed when they are the victims of violence.  Yet when men are sexually confident, their behaviours, ethical or not, are lauded.

It speaks volumes when men will shoot an unarmed young girl in the head because she speaks of every child having the right to education in even the worst of circumstances.

It speaks volumes when women and girls are kidnapped and sold into slavery and forced into inconvenient marriages. Let’s call this what it is: unjustified endorsed rape.

I’m sickened that people living rough on the streets are the targets for violent commentary and behaviours.  Instead of hurling insults when people are genuinely seeking food, remember this: people don’t go hungry because they are homeless – they go hungry because we let them.

I am sickened that it took hundreds of people being killed by stalkers for law enforcement to actually see stalking as the psychological and physical torment that it is.

It sickens me that a woman was blinded because her husband did not want her to be educated. It sickens me that he was not held to account for his actions until the international outcry was so loud that his government “simply had to do something.”

It sickens me that women are gang raped just because they are in the wrong place at the right time. I hate that rape is a weapon of war. It sickens me that young women in India are raped because they do not have access to indoor toilets.

It sickens me that people who think educating women is sinful are heavily armed and in positions of shocking and threatening power.

I am sickened by women who tell their sons and grandsons it’s okay to treat other women like nonentities.  I am sickened by sex-selective abortions, female infanticide, female genital mutilation and the killings and disappearance of millions of women all over the world. I am sickened by “son preference.”  I am sickened that we’ve been having this conversation for decades and decades and decades and the progress we have to show for it is maintaining the status quo??

It sickens me that teenagers are taking their own lives because of hostile and heinous bullying via social media. it sickens me that the “silent wall of aggression” has become so powerful that we easily let people hide behind it.  I miss the days of accountability.

Conversely, it sickens me that what goes on consensually in the privacy of bedrooms becomes fodder for international news outlets. It is none of our business what people do in their bedrooms unless people are being physically hurt, threatened or abused.

I am sickened that we have to have a debate about who should be allowed to visit loved ones in a hospital because s/he doesn’t fit the “traditional heterosexual” marriage/family paradigm.

It sickens me that battered wife syndrome, even though proven in courts of law, is still only defended at face value.

It sickens me that we live in a culture of fear which precludes change and enables collusion.

It sickens me that media organisations stop at nothing to find “as much dirt,” as possible about both accused and accuser. What the HELL happened to journalistic integrity? What makes national news these days is disparagingly distressing. Quite frankly I don’t care about Justin Bieber’s new hairstyle or where Miley Cyrus has put her tongue.

What I care about are people dying because they have the audacity to disagree with their governments. What I care about is victims having to think twice about naming their accusers because we make them relive their abuse over and over and over again. And we do it all at lightning speed thanks to Twitter.

It sickens me that it has taken a scandal involving a public figure such as Jian Ghomeshi to break open the conversation surrounding sexual violence and harassment both in public and private.

It should not have taken this long for the conversation to become this significant. Violence against anyone is violence against all of us.  Complicity surrounding inappropriate behaviour is enabling behaviour. The conversation needs to shift towards non-complicity.  Indeed, towards respect and consideration overall.

We are in the midst of an incredibly rapid de-evolution of respect and decency.  This has to change, especially when the message has consistently been “you will not be believed because you are woman.”

Women have so much power in North America that if all of us stopped working for even four days, stopped driving and paying outrageous amounts for petrol, stopped grocery shopping, it would cripple the economy.  Think about that the next time your employer says to you “be more malleable.”
My name is Woman. Hear me Roar.

 

Nelson Mandela

You will be missed.

To all my friends and family, I am happy and thankful for your presence in this world.  Most of all, to my Kenya family, I am happy and in praise of the Almighty for keeping you alive throughout the horrendous events of the Nairobi Westgate shootings.  I know many of you were spared through what can only be described as Divine Intervention and for that, I stand in gratitude, in humble praise and in deference for those we lost.  To my extended family who lost their beloveds, I pray for your strength of faith, for your peace and for the eternal peace and rest of those who were taken from us.

Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason; sometimes things have to happen that make no sense.  All we can do is keep faith alive, keep praying, keep standing in the face of adversity and keep humble and keep loving each other.  When events like this happen, let us remind each other that what really matters is us– you matter. I matter.  We are here.  Ameen.  Amen. Ahmen.

Salama Kenya!

To the Moon and Barack!

I wanted to send a personal thank you to American Voters for re-electing President Barack Obama.  But I have very specific reasons for which I wanted to say thanks.

I say thank you because although many of you voted for Mitt Romney, you did not elect a deluded, farcical, “cut between an Attila the Hun in global warmongering and Jack-the-Ripper in capitalist savagery,” as Hamid Dabashi, Al-Jazeera contributor and Professor of Iranian Studies and Comparative Literature at Columbia University calls him.  Mitt Romney would have bankrupted America and taken war to an already war-torn Syria.  To those of you unfamiliar with Syria and its regional politics, Syria is not Tunisia, it is not Libya and it is not Egypt.  It is uncomfortable ground; ground which needs protection and careful, decisive, well-planned and wisely executed action.

I say thank you because you didn’t elect a President who pays less in taxes than you do and less than you ever will because of the very same tax loopholes and expenditures he talked about shutting down.  You need to ask yourself what a presidential candidate really stands for when the taxes he pays amount to “chump change,” in financial rhetoric.  You have to ask yourself if your candidate really “gets it.”  It was clear from the get-go, that Romney didn’t.

I say thank you because you didn’t elect a President who couldn’t and who wouldn’t, though asked on countless occasions, specify an economic plan which would outline exactly how and through what means new jobs would be created, the deficit and government spending reduced.  If Romney was indeed a business man who could “solve problems” then this would have been a walk in the park for him.  Instead, he couldn’t answer the question.  In fact, time and again, he and Paul Ryan refused to specify their plan.

I say thank you because you didn’t elect a President who, for the last four years has been on a personal mission to make Barack Obama “a one-term President.”  To quote Bill Clinton, “it takes a lot of brass,” to accuse someone of non-bipartisanship when that someone has been hell-bent on precluding the President from doing his job.

I say thank you because you elected a President who gets it.  You elected a man who understands that the only way to get things done in Washington is through bipartisan cooperation even when that cooperation is short-lived or outright non-existent.   Historically, the issue of health care and insurance for every American has been a very sore point in American politics, but here you have a president who is looking at the much larger picture of ensuring that when workers are healthy and don’t have to worry about health coverage, those same workers are far more productive.

You elected a man who won an unprecedented and historical presidency.  To those of you on the far right of the political spectrum, I say this: it should never, ever come down to the melanin count to determine who has the right to become President.   So when every parent, of every race looks to his or her children, and says to them that they can become anything, it will hold true.

I say thank you because you elected a President who has much work to do.  Especially when it comes to closing, once and for all, Guantanamo Bay.  When America finally holds true to international law, to the Geneva Convention, the International Convention on the Rights of the Child and the International Human Rights Declaration then it will truly be an independent nation.  I say thank you because President Obama, and whoever comes after him, needs to learn that the unfettered access to prisoners of war, without being informed of their rights and to be detained indefinitely, without trial, has to end.  This President and all who follow him need to learn that people in Afghanistan and Iraq are not going to be grateful about having their countries taken over and taken to the brink of extinction just because an American President (GW) decided that their lives were “less than.”  President Obama needs to learn that praising Israel continuously and making the protection of the state of Israel America’s number one priority is not going to help achieve peace in the Middle East.  If America is indeed a sovereign nation, then there is no reason it needs to have Israel determine its foreign policy.  Obama has work to do in stopping drone attacks because he has no right to determine who lives or dies in nations and regions which have historically been problematic.  Drones solve nothing.  Let us hope that President Obama will get that.

I say thank you because America and the world need an economically viable and stable America. Were it not for the absolute failure of George W. to recognise that banks and financial institutions require regulation and were it not for the spending of $80 billion per annum on a war that no one wanted or needed, President Obama would not have inherited the economic mess that resulted in a near world-wide collapse.  You Republicans can go ahead and blame the President for this mess, but you really should hold your own accountable.  You elected a puppet who had no business being in the White House, let alone being Commander In-Chief and then you expect that President Obama can fix it in one term, with an undeniably resolute republican party blocking his every move!  That, my friends, is called impudence.

If Mitt Romney had won the election, all I would have written was this: Hide your money under your mattresses because that is the only place it will be safe.  Since we have witnessed a different turning of the proverbial tide,  I will say this:  for economic situations to rebalance themselves, there is a requirement to spend and save simultaneously.  Money is like blood flow—it needs to circulate in order to grow.  Without spending, there can be no saving and vice versa.  President Obama gets that.

You may ask why a Canadian cares so much about who is in the White House?  Because who you elect has a direct effect on my country’s relationship with your government.  Additionally, your government tells me how countries like Syria will be the recipients of dialogue and conversation rather than bombings.  People like me have friends and relatives all over the world and we want to know that the “leader of the free world,” will maintain dialogue and be thankful for the opportunity to do so.  Your country is deeply divided and has been for many years.  Perhaps if more of you were to do your homework, rather than relying on tub-thumpers like Sarah Palin, Michelle Bachman and Newt Gingrich, you would come to learn that you personally have work to do.  Being a citizen is not just going to the polls when there is something about which to vote.  You have a voice; you can choose to get educated and stop living on lies.  You can choose to have faith in your country.  People all over the world laugh at America and call you stupid.  That is because you make such a fuss over the middle name of a president when those very people who call you stupid are being shot, tortured and even killed just for dissenting against their own governments.  President Obama gets that.

I am beginning to believe that while President Obama still has a great deal to learn, there is almost nothing he cannot achieve.  He was right to run on Hope and Change in 2008.  America was in dire need of those two very indispensable commodities.  Indeed, so too was the world.

I say thank you because you elected a President Unprecedented.  Never before, in American history, has an African-American male been elected to the White House twice.

If Tupac could see this now….

It ain’t just the economy stupid…

Social and print media have been bombarded with images of war and state sponsored terrorism lately.  No more so than images being leaked from Syria and not surprisingly, from Israel and Palestine.  France struggles with electing a new President in the midst of continued economic down turn and America is on the road to deciding once again if change is necessary.  In Canada, we recently celebrated the 30th anniversary of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms.  Yet, I ask you, how many of you Canadians even knew that our Charter is only 30 years old?  Better yet, how many of you even knew we had one?  Our “culture” is so consumed by Americanisation that it surprises me that many do not know that there is an entire “Charter” that protects fundamental freedoms, like our right to freedom of expression.  While we have miles and miles to go before the Charter is reflective of every walk of life, we have come a very long way since 1982.

Rights activists will no doubt be screaming out that the Charter is lacking in a great many areas, however, compared to living in Syria or Palestine, I think we have things pretty good.  While we could undoubtedly give more recognition to our Aboriginal Peoples and to those who identify through sexual orientation, we are incredulously, among the luckiest people in the world.  Our government has not sponsored its forces to commit terrorism against us. Nor has our government walled us off from friends and family telling us that due to religious beliefs, we have no right to life or no access to water.  Although I am sure that many in Attawapiskat would tell you otherwise, the people of Palestine are facing a struggle so dire that, left unchecked, will result in the most covert, deceitful form of apartheid there is:  civil apartheid.  Human Rights activist and coordinator of the Russell Tribunal on Palestine, Frank Barat writes on Al-Jazeera that “we’ve gone way beyond Apartheid.”  That annexation of certain areas of Palestine to Israel is happening on such a civil level that the offer of citizenship to Palestinians in areas being annexed is nothing more than apartheid because it forces the walled in separation of Arabs from Jews.

Check out his article:

We’ve gone way beyond Apartheid

What is more concerning to me is what happens when most Palestinians are walled off from water sources.  Many no longer have access to water wells and sources that once belonged to them through ancestral inheritance of land. Is this the new level on which wars will be fought?  And has this been done deliberately so that each party can turn to the world and say “see? we told you they would….!”

We have become so complacent in our lack of understanding others that there is no longer outcry when Syrian forces kill young students without hesitation.  When people are starved of their rights to provide for themselves and educate themselves, what is left are a people so marred by violence and hatred that even the mundane activity of buying bread can become an event in rage.  Why is it necessary to murder in the name of a man who is so far removed from his own truth that he is creating a nightmare for all those who have the misfortune to be living under his rule?

For a world economy that is so fragile, so based in deceit to repair itself, will take leaders of all nations to come together to recognise the validity and the value of human life.  Even if it takes fifty or one hundred years, the end result will be well worth the effort.  Without the energy and the spirit of human kind, no amount of money will replace the lives, the dignity of all those who have fallen victim to apartheid, genocide, economic disaster, civil strife and war.  Today our lives aren’t just about the economy — they are about the meaning we derive from every moment.  Perhaps one day, Palestine and Syria will have charters akin to Canada’s. Perhaps one day, resources that are part of our environmental commons will be shared between all peoples, regardless of historical ancestry.

Here’s hoping….