From Iyanla Vanzant’s “Peace from Broken Pieces,”
“Until and unless you know that you are enough just the way you are, you will always be driven to look for more. Knowing that you are enough is a function of consciousness. Your enough-ness develops in direct proportion to the relationship you have with your true identity.”
“Simply see that you are at the center of the universe, and accept all things and beings as parts of your infinite body. When you perceive that an act done to another is done to yourself, you have understood the great truth.”
— Lao Tzu
It doesn’t take much to trigger a negative emotion does it?
I look around me and see so many things that needn’t have existed simply because one person’s perception of another was inaccurate. Sometimes, we really do see what we want to see. Whether positive or negative. If you are focused on drama, then drama is what you will draw to yourself. When you look at others around you, and you are steeped in the middle of toxicity, you will not see what is; rather you will see, in that moment, what you desire to create, whether negative or positive.
When we see someone acting out in anger or frustration, it is far more healing to understand, and know internally, that person has had something go wrong in his or her day. When we react to negativity without clarity of perception or compassion, what we are saying to the universe is “this is the energy I am drawing to me, so give me more.” When we hurt another, we cannot understand what we do to that person, either on a spiritual level or an emotional level. And when we are hurt by others, it takes a toll on us even when we deny the truth of that hurt.
So as Iyanla Vanzant always says, (and here is the real truth of it all) “I am not my sister’s keeper. I am my sister. “
The world in which we live can prove disastrously challenging. Especially when one is trying to live one’s truth. What I have learned in the last week is that people will always have a reason for you not to own your truth and allow you to stand within it. The great gift of this universe is that we do not require the permission of others to be who we were meant to be.
Standing in one’s truth may prove difficult at first; there may be others around you that will belittle you, insult you, envy you, make things difficult for you. However, there is a greater strength at work here: you. As Iyanla Vanzant said many years ago, “a child of God with a made up mind is a powerful thing!” One does not have to name a deity or believe in a particular religion to have this be true. One simply needs to identify the truth of his/her own life and live it. Yes, this can be more difficult than anything you have ever attempted, however, the greater power of you aligned with a universe that is on the same wavelength will concur the insulters, the enviers, the people who do not believe that you have the right or the power to live your best life.
Whether your truth is being a teacher, a photographer, a writer, a singer, a stay at home parent, acknowledge this. If your truth is identifying with your sexual orientation or living outside of the culture in which you were raised, acknowledge this. If your truth is admitting that you have more debt than you know what to do with, acknowledge this. Once you have the presence of mind to acknowledge your truth, whatever it might be, you will understand in your own life, how to express that truth. And that expression doesn’t have to be grandiose in nature; one step at one time will lead to a “road less travelled.”
From Marianne Williamson, one of my favourites, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure….Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you….And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
May the truth in which you stand light the way in service, in compassion and in the upliftment of people everywhere.
Life has been “showing up!”
Lessons abound at every turn. One I would like to share with all of you, courtesy of life teacher and great mother, Iyanla Vanzant:
“If you don’t show up with who you are, people fall in love with who you are not.”
Have the courage to be true to who you are and who you were meant to be. Life will take care of the rest.
Have a blessed week!