Ego v. Spirit – can there be a winner?

A few things have really been bothering me lately.  Far too many of us are living in “ego.”  What I mean by this is when we live in ego, we claim moral authority, we judge, we make pronouncements regarding what ought to be and we are noisy.  When we live in ego, we cannot be still enough to know that spirit is trying its level best to get through.   When we live in ego, we cannot summon enough compassion to pull ourselves out of ego and see things from the level of spirit.  We are surrounded by the white noise of our televisions, our radios, our personal devices and our own voices– our profanities.  When we are noisy we cannot hear the truth of what is.  This is not to say that we don’t need ego in our day-to-day lives because we do.  Ego protects, ego manages and ego even guides in the material well-being of things. But as Suzy Orman says “People first, then things….”

I watched a friend’s relationship unravel because the two involved were not meeting on a level field– one was using anger born in ego to communicate and the other was trying to respond in spirit.  It wasn’t working because the anger blocked any wisdom that could possibly have been felt in the heart.  The one who was responding in spirit found herself being shut out, shut down and no longer a partner in her relationship.  The angry one wanted to blame and couldn’t understand why his position wasn’t the only one that mattered.

Anger has its home in ego.  Its home is “I am right and thus I have might.”  Anger is another word for deep fear, deep sorrow, deep hurt.  All of which can be healed in spirit.  However, in order for healing to take place, anger needs to recede and there must be room for willingness, surrender, acceptance and acknowledgment.

Acknowledgement is extremely important– one can accept that one is wrong but not having the presence of mind to acknowledge that to another belies the acceptance.   Acknowledgement means that in speaking the truth of my spirit, I am “…heading, however haltingly, toward unity.” (Deepak Chopra)

What bothers me is this– in our Western culture, there has been far too much ego-based judgement on what ought to be right, what ought to be good and what ought to be in general.  The fact of the matter is this– every soul, every spirit has something unique to contribute so what ought to be really is an ego-value-based judgement.

So who wins in the battle between Ego v. Spirit?  No one.  The winning happens when ego is set aside and the world is seen through the pure potentiality of spirit.  “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field – I will meet you there.”
(Jalaluddin Rumi)

 

Practice the Power of Intention

The power of intention is the power of love and receptivity.
It asks nothing of anyone, it judges no one, and it encourages others to be free to be themselves. Remember: You were intended out of love, so you must be love in order to intend.


Dr. Wayne Dyer

Spirit to Spirit…

From my favourite Poet of all time– Jalaluddin Rumi:

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Happy International Women’s Day!

To all the women who make my life possible, I say thank you and I honour you.

From the moms (single and married) who pull off the amazing every day to the managers, educators, instructors, confidants, nurses, listeners, drivers, colleagues and women who hold me up, I say thank you.

To all the men, women and children who hold up these women, I need to thank you as well.

To every woman past, present and living who have ever inspired me, I thank you.  From your life stories, from your presence in this world, I have learned and been made stronger and wiser.

Thank you to the women who are my life teachers.  And to those who let me breathe.  To those who struggle every day for freedom, for food, for medicine, for safety and for dignity, I say a prayer for you today and I honour your strength.

 

Happy International Women`s Day!

Celebrate life and say thank you!

Always say thank you ….

It’s the only way to keep ourselves sane in an insane world.  And it’s really one of the only ways in which to keep ourselves happy and grounded.

Spirit reflects what it is given in abundance.  If your focus is on how much you don’t have then you will find yourself experiencing scarcity.  However, if your focus is on abundance, then you will find yourself experiencing prosperity.

In times of craziness, in times of joy rising, your focus will determine the outcome of your experience.  In witnessing the death of a beloved family member and the birth of another, I realised that sometimes crazy comes in a package deal!  And in giving thanks for both lives I began to realise something even more  life affirming: that in celebration of a life well lived, it paved the way for the blessings of a new life.   When we say thank you to this wonderful universe of ours, we are blessed in ways we cannot imagine.

I hope your thank yous this week bring much love and abundance.

A New, Happy Year! My wishes for all…

To all celebrating and welcoming in the New Year, I wish you a happy start to 2013.

My wish for you is that you find peace and joy in all good things and that abundance in all good things be yours.

My wishes for the world are these:

That we give thanks and feel gratitude for the abundance of blessings that are upon us every day.  That every day begins with a new opportunity to give thanks.

That we begin to welcome and be open to the spiritual paradigm shift of our wonderful universe.  Too many of us are steeped in cultural, behavioural and religious dogma. Let us be open to receiving and being grateful for what we receive.

That elected officials participate in ‘doing the right thing,’ as opposed to holding steadfast to egotistical constraints.

That victims of horrendous crimes are not re-victimized because of the cultural barriers that prevent laws from being upheld.

That governments of countries experiencing civil strife and civil war open themselves up to dialogue.  And remain open to solutions.

That poverty and disparity be vanquished.

That we continue (and some of us begin) taking better care of planet Earth.  Quite frankly, it’s the only one we’ve got!  It makes sense to respect our little blue dot.

That people begin to say what they mean and mean what they say.  That we begin to move away from “what will people think?” and begin moving towards “will this feel good in my soul?”

That we put an end to bullying and domestic violence.  No child should have to consider, even for a moment, what his or her life would look like if he or she were no longer alive.  No person suffering any kind of violence should have to.

That we put colour barriers aside and reach for the commonalities that bind us all; we are all human.  We all eat, sleep, excrete waste, we all take up space (on this little blue dot) and we all, for the most part, experience life.

That we understand the need for financial security and stability.

You have within you the power to create the brilliant future that is meant to be yours.

My wish for you is that you use everything within you to make that a reality for yourselves.

My wish for all of you is that you live a life wherein joy rising greets you in the morning and gratitude for the abundance of blessings in your life gives rest to your body at night.

Have a wonderful 2013!!

 

 

When Hope breathes…

“The right to hope is the most fundamental human motivation I know.”  
 — Baccalaureate Address, Brown University, His Highness The Aga Khan 1996

 
When hope takes root within an individual, that hope can be such a factor for motivating and lasting change.  A belief in oneself to overcome, to outlive, to outgrow, to outmaneuver whatever challenges may lie in one’s path begins in hope.  Hope is the quintessential sustenance of that belief.

Challenges will always be present in life; this is factual.  The challenge to life is to find Grace within rising above or meeting those challenges.  Many of you are questioning if you are overdoing things for the holidays.  Others are questioning when or if they’ll ever see their relatives from the Middle East.  Yet others, are sleeping on sidewalks in the coldest of wintry weather.   All of us possess the capability of hope; of grasping on to whatever it is that causes hope to breathe spirit into us.  So long as we have a belief within ourselves to strive beyond our known capabilities, we have hope.

The tricky thing about hope is that it is highly criticised and often imitated but never fully achieved.  If we look at what constitutes hope, we have to look at what necessitates its existence. When something isn’t working on the level we need or expect, hope is necessitated.  When all else seems lost, hope is necessitated. When Grace is needed but isn’t quite present, hope is necessitated.  To have hope, is to change an underlying human limitation: losing faith.

There are many who would argue that hope is a waste of time.  The other day I heard Diane Sawyer remark that someone had once told her “a criticism is a really bad way of making a request.” If we apply this to those who would criticise hope, it is not surprising to realise that those who belittle this great motivating factor are those who likely need it most.

This is what I know for sure– when it seems that I am being challenged most and the only place to which I can turn is Spirit, I know that my ‘right to hope’ is so powerful, that Spirit has no choice but to acquiesce.

 

Life is short. So live it.

I received this on email the other day from a sister-friend. I’d forgotten that these are rules by which I have always lived.  I often smile to myself in public.  It either freaks people out or it makes them wonder what the heck I’ve been up to!

Every message I have needed this week has shown up in the form of emails, phone calls, intuition, and believe it or not, in a box of oranges! This abundant universe of ours always works in wondrous and miraculous ways.  As Ms. Oprah says “you get in life what you have the courage to ask for.”  So ask.   Ask for more moments that make you smile.  Ask for moments that take your breath away because you know in those moments, you have really lived.  Ask for the joy of laughter to be part of your life every day, and ask to love.  Do whatever makes you happy, but above all, love.

Have a blessed, blessed week!

To the Moon and Barack!

I wanted to send a personal thank you to American Voters for re-electing President Barack Obama.  But I have very specific reasons for which I wanted to say thanks.

I say thank you because although many of you voted for Mitt Romney, you did not elect a deluded, farcical, “cut between an Attila the Hun in global warmongering and Jack-the-Ripper in capitalist savagery,” as Hamid Dabashi, Al-Jazeera contributor and Professor of Iranian Studies and Comparative Literature at Columbia University calls him.  Mitt Romney would have bankrupted America and taken war to an already war-torn Syria.  To those of you unfamiliar with Syria and its regional politics, Syria is not Tunisia, it is not Libya and it is not Egypt.  It is uncomfortable ground; ground which needs protection and careful, decisive, well-planned and wisely executed action.

I say thank you because you didn’t elect a President who pays less in taxes than you do and less than you ever will because of the very same tax loopholes and expenditures he talked about shutting down.  You need to ask yourself what a presidential candidate really stands for when the taxes he pays amount to “chump change,” in financial rhetoric.  You have to ask yourself if your candidate really “gets it.”  It was clear from the get-go, that Romney didn’t.

I say thank you because you didn’t elect a President who couldn’t and who wouldn’t, though asked on countless occasions, specify an economic plan which would outline exactly how and through what means new jobs would be created, the deficit and government spending reduced.  If Romney was indeed a business man who could “solve problems” then this would have been a walk in the park for him.  Instead, he couldn’t answer the question.  In fact, time and again, he and Paul Ryan refused to specify their plan.

I say thank you because you didn’t elect a President who, for the last four years has been on a personal mission to make Barack Obama “a one-term President.”  To quote Bill Clinton, “it takes a lot of brass,” to accuse someone of non-bipartisanship when that someone has been hell-bent on precluding the President from doing his job.

I say thank you because you elected a President who gets it.  You elected a man who understands that the only way to get things done in Washington is through bipartisan cooperation even when that cooperation is short-lived or outright non-existent.   Historically, the issue of health care and insurance for every American has been a very sore point in American politics, but here you have a president who is looking at the much larger picture of ensuring that when workers are healthy and don’t have to worry about health coverage, those same workers are far more productive.

You elected a man who won an unprecedented and historical presidency.  To those of you on the far right of the political spectrum, I say this: it should never, ever come down to the melanin count to determine who has the right to become President.   So when every parent, of every race looks to his or her children, and says to them that they can become anything, it will hold true.

I say thank you because you elected a President who has much work to do.  Especially when it comes to closing, once and for all, Guantanamo Bay.  When America finally holds true to international law, to the Geneva Convention, the International Convention on the Rights of the Child and the International Human Rights Declaration then it will truly be an independent nation.  I say thank you because President Obama, and whoever comes after him, needs to learn that the unfettered access to prisoners of war, without being informed of their rights and to be detained indefinitely, without trial, has to end.  This President and all who follow him need to learn that people in Afghanistan and Iraq are not going to be grateful about having their countries taken over and taken to the brink of extinction just because an American President (GW) decided that their lives were “less than.”  President Obama needs to learn that praising Israel continuously and making the protection of the state of Israel America’s number one priority is not going to help achieve peace in the Middle East.  If America is indeed a sovereign nation, then there is no reason it needs to have Israel determine its foreign policy.  Obama has work to do in stopping drone attacks because he has no right to determine who lives or dies in nations and regions which have historically been problematic.  Drones solve nothing.  Let us hope that President Obama will get that.

I say thank you because America and the world need an economically viable and stable America. Were it not for the absolute failure of George W. to recognise that banks and financial institutions require regulation and were it not for the spending of $80 billion per annum on a war that no one wanted or needed, President Obama would not have inherited the economic mess that resulted in a near world-wide collapse.  You Republicans can go ahead and blame the President for this mess, but you really should hold your own accountable.  You elected a puppet who had no business being in the White House, let alone being Commander In-Chief and then you expect that President Obama can fix it in one term, with an undeniably resolute republican party blocking his every move!  That, my friends, is called impudence.

If Mitt Romney had won the election, all I would have written was this: Hide your money under your mattresses because that is the only place it will be safe.  Since we have witnessed a different turning of the proverbial tide,  I will say this:  for economic situations to rebalance themselves, there is a requirement to spend and save simultaneously.  Money is like blood flow—it needs to circulate in order to grow.  Without spending, there can be no saving and vice versa.  President Obama gets that.

You may ask why a Canadian cares so much about who is in the White House?  Because who you elect has a direct effect on my country’s relationship with your government.  Additionally, your government tells me how countries like Syria will be the recipients of dialogue and conversation rather than bombings.  People like me have friends and relatives all over the world and we want to know that the “leader of the free world,” will maintain dialogue and be thankful for the opportunity to do so.  Your country is deeply divided and has been for many years.  Perhaps if more of you were to do your homework, rather than relying on tub-thumpers like Sarah Palin, Michelle Bachman and Newt Gingrich, you would come to learn that you personally have work to do.  Being a citizen is not just going to the polls when there is something about which to vote.  You have a voice; you can choose to get educated and stop living on lies.  You can choose to have faith in your country.  People all over the world laugh at America and call you stupid.  That is because you make such a fuss over the middle name of a president when those very people who call you stupid are being shot, tortured and even killed just for dissenting against their own governments.  President Obama gets that.

I am beginning to believe that while President Obama still has a great deal to learn, there is almost nothing he cannot achieve.  He was right to run on Hope and Change in 2008.  America was in dire need of those two very indispensable commodities.  Indeed, so too was the world.

I say thank you because you elected a President Unprecedented.  Never before, in American history, has an African-American male been elected to the White House twice.

If Tupac could see this now….

From Iyanla Vanzant’s “Peace from Broken Pieces,”

“Until and unless you know that you are enough just the way you are, you will always be driven to look for more. Knowing that you are enough is a function of consciousness.   Your enough-ness develops in direct proportion to the relationship you have with your true identity.”